Do you keep in mind how you felt when you failed so as to sums test back in school? Or when your use for addition in that sports team was rejected? Or more freshly, when that job use didn’t work out? Rejection has been and always will be a part of your usual life as your daily mail. Still, it hurts. Even though we’ve knowledgeable it a hundred times, each refusal is a new cut. Rejection hurts and it’s genuine.
What is rejection?
Rejection on the whole means keeping out from a group, an contact, in order, communication or moving familiarity.When someone deliberately excludes you from any of these, your brain tells you that you’re experiencing rejection. The psychological term for this type of rejection is Social Rejection.Does rejection hurt? We all know it does. It feels lousy, especially in the context of a romantic relationship. Should it hurt?
1. Be conscious of differences.
Each person in this world has a different realism. In any given state of affairs, two people can never believe or react in accurately the same way. No one else see the same earth as you do. In other words, how you would’ve behaved if you were them in a certain situation.This expectation-reality gap often gives rise to feelings of rejection and hurt in people. The first step to avoid unnecessary feelings of negative response is to acknowledge this difference.
2. Force yourself to think of more than one.
The rule of thumb that I follow to avoid shock reactions from people in any state of affairs is this: in its place of having one exacting likely outcome in mind, I force myself to objectively imagine at least two possible reactions.
3. Have reasons for each possible outcome.
Let’s say, you’re going to ask a girl out. Don’t expect that she’ll believe in which case you’ll sense rejected if she doesn’t, but don’t expect that she’ll reject either in which case, you might be so under-confident while asking her out that she might reject you anyway. Instead, tell yourself this: “There are two possible outcomes of this situation. First, she could accept my offer because I’m a handsome, smart, fun guy (use whatever reasoning you want, but make sure you come up with at least 2-3 reasons). Second, she might also reject me because at the moment she might not be interested in dating at all. She could be already seeing someone else, or she might need different qualities in a potential date/boyfriend than the ones which I have.”
4. Be point in your analysis.
As you can see, this reasoning work out achieve two goals? One, it forces you to visualise both the constructive and negative outcomes of any state. Therefore, it spiritually prepares you for the negative outcome.Secondly, it also looks at the negative outcome in a way which is as objective as possible, thereby minimising the feelings of personification associated with the negative outcome.
5. Avoid taking every result for myself.
This brings me to one of the most important feature of handling refusal successfully totally avoid feelings of rejection where they are unnecessary and needless. Again, I’m not here to tell you that you can avoid feeling hurt by feeding yourself some indistinct account of reality. I’d only like to draw your notice to the fact that often, you understand a situation as a rejection when it’s actually not.