Relationships that are fit are always rising and broken up and therefore, by their very natural world are forever in fact pretty painful. There is no table we reach where we finish to change or confront each other. The result can be moving but also disturbing how do you ride the waves of each other’s moods, phases, and major life events without growing apart?
1. Live without expectations.
Expecting that your colleague will do a exact action for you to be happy is a stupid way of thinking. How would you sense if your equal always likely you to call as soon as you finished work? I’m in no doubt you would sense a brains of force and duty. Nobody wants to feel forced to do anything. You would be more than keen to call your partner after work if you didn’t feel forced. Put yourself in the shoes of your partner. If you’re expecting your partner to always make you happy, you will never be completely satisfied in your life.
2. Focus on improving your flaws.
It’s person nature to point out the fault of others before looking at our own flaw. For you to experience a satisfying relationship, you must study the importance of focus on civilising your own flaws rather than point out the error of your partner. We all have imperfection that is part of who we are. When a disagreement occurs between you and your partner, look within first before looking at the flaws of your partner. If you focus too much on your partner’s flaws, you will end up being judgemental and critical. This does nothing but weaken the foundation of your relationship.
3. Be calm before the storm.
Immediately offensive your partner after they have distress you will only make the state of affairs worse. Think about the saying, “the calm before the tempest.” This is the peaceful and calm period before a period of problem and distress. I know from personal experience how easy it can be to respond to your equal when they make you disturb. It takes tolerance and the skill to deliberately stop you from reacting negatively. It will not be an all night fix; rather, it will be a long term change of behaviour. It will be your actions that will either worsen the storm or lessen the winds of impact. It’s your decision to make.
4. Set limits.
Setting limitations for your own well-being and also for the well-being of your relationship is key to experiencing a pleasing and satisfying relationship. Without boundaries, how do you or your partner be familiar with where to draw the line? Setting limits will establish a solid foundation. Think of a house being build. There is a plan of how the home should be build. Without this drawing, the house will be built on a weak base. It’s the same with your connection. The boundaries are the blueprint in which you and your partner set up in order to experience a fulfilling relationship. You and your partner must decide the boundaries that you want to establish in your relationship.