1) Self- Awareness – How you treat yourself is how you teach others to treat you.
People who are self-aware have something very attractive about them. They exactly know which page they are on, in life. They have knowledge of their weaknesses and also understand the power of their strength. People like these are attractive because they have an extremely sorted mind and it is pretty easy to maintain a relationship with them. They will tell you directly about what they want from you.
2) Have Big Goals – Having a big dream in life will emit a certain sort of positivity from you.
Everyone wants to be with someone who has a larger -than- life dreams and truly works to fulfill them. The first step in achieving is dreaming. And if you can dream of it, you can definitely do it as well.
3) Confidence Is The Key – Confidence is the most important thing one can have.
If you don’t see greatness in yourself how will others see? The best part about being confident in your own skin is that you have no room for jealousy and envy. Believing in who you are will give you the courage to be authentic. People are extremely attracted to confident people. There is a very strong aura that they emit which people are drawn too. Confidence allows a person to take authority of their actions and also take hold of situations. Confidence will teach you that you aren’t in competition with anyone. It teaches you to be self-sufficient
4) Stop Complaining – Complaining never makes anything better until you get yourself up and work to make things better.
People who are constantly seen complaining about how miserable their life is or how they hate being sick or how they don’t like what their body looks like can never be attractive. Nobody wants to be surrounded by people who are constantly speaking about all the wrongs but never about ways to make the wrongs right. It is sort of negative to constantly talk about problems and never do anything to solve them. When times get tough, focus on all that you have achieved in life and how far you’ve come.
5) Use Of Body Gestures – Not making an eye contact while speaking is one of the most unattractive things ever.
90% of a person’s first impression is based on their body language. Be it in parties of formal interview sessions. Your body language can make or break the game. It plays a huge part in shaping your personality. Standing straight, sharing a warm smile, looking into people’s eyes while conversing is very attractive and will make people want to be around you more often.
6) A Great Storyteller – Someone who can initiate good conversations and be an amazing speaker is a huge turn on.
People often get hooked on to people who are great storytellers. Having a certain sort of experience to share with a very interesting way of speaking is very attractive. “Philip Pullman once said: “After nourishment, shelter, and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.” Being a great storyteller is also useful as an Average Joe interacting with other people. Being able to communicate your ideas and stories in a clear and captivating way allows for better social interactions.”
7) Focus On One – Be it your goal or person; focus on one at a time.
Nobody likes people who give undivided attention. Until and unless it’s absolutely to attend a message or a call, don’t use your phone when you are with a friend. It doesn’t matter if you’re with a friend or partner; it is considered to be very rude to be engaged in your phone or staring elsewhere when you are out with someone.
8) Listen – Listen not just to speak but to understand.
Don’t pretend to listen to someone while your mind is occupied elsewhere. Never underestimate the power of listening. A lot of us go through our daily struggles and in this “always rushing” life, sometimes we just need someone who is genuinely wishing to listen.
9) Don’t Copy But Imitate – When you’re out with someone, try to be their mirror image.
It’s very important to be on the same page with the other person. Try to show interest in other persons’ passion and hobbies.